How to snare the one you want- conflicting advice
September 13th 2006 08:27
How to snare the one you want- conflicting adviceOkay, this is one for the ladies. There are many, many dating books out there written specifically for us… more that you could read even if it was your full-time job (like mine when I’m not whipping my men into shape).
Further more, all of these books have completely different ideas about what it takes to attract ‘the one’ (a concept I whole-heartedly disbelieve).
Two particularly contradictory books had me completely at ends for days.
Exhibit A: ‘The Surrended Single’ by Laura Doyle advocates that women remain open to all experiences (some ladies take this a little too literally *cough* close your legs, Fergie from the Black Eyed Peas); as well as understanding if a man doesn’t call for a few weeks. She also advises that women should accept ALL dates requested of them (does that include men that jog around your neighbourhood at 6am every morning, completely decked out in Richmond footy gear… even when its not football season?…………ew).
Meanwhile…..
Exhibit B: ‘He’s just not that into you’ by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccilo contend that the only way to find an adoring male (with a nice car [?]) is to relentlessly hunt for signs that he ‘isn’t ‘into you’, act like a frosty ice-maiden and raise your standards so high that the only available men left are:
a) astronauts,
b) imaginary or
c) snowmen.
So what’s the right answer?
A combination of both approaches will do the trick. It’s a subtle, but brilliant blend of flattery and disinterestedness. Real them in with the flattery, then, just when they are about to take the bait, lose interest. You might like to try timing this response in two or three minute intervals. To get yourself in the right frame of mind repeat ‘Hot. Cold. Hot. Cold.’ over and over in your head until you go a bit cross-eyed (a very attractive look).
Warning: This is theoretical only and has not been empirically tested for its validity.
I will now hand this concept on to my readers to test. Get back to me with your results!
Further more, all of these books have completely different ideas about what it takes to attract ‘the one’ (a concept I whole-heartedly disbelieve).
Two particularly contradictory books had me completely at ends for days.
Exhibit A: ‘The Surrended Single’ by Laura Doyle advocates that women remain open to all experiences (some ladies take this a little too literally *cough* close your legs, Fergie from the Black Eyed Peas); as well as understanding if a man doesn’t call for a few weeks. She also advises that women should accept ALL dates requested of them (does that include men that jog around your neighbourhood at 6am every morning, completely decked out in Richmond footy gear… even when its not football season?…………ew).
Meanwhile…..
Exhibit B: ‘He’s just not that into you’ by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccilo contend that the only way to find an adoring male (with a nice car [?]) is to relentlessly hunt for signs that he ‘isn’t ‘into you’, act like a frosty ice-maiden and raise your standards so high that the only available men left are:
a) astronauts,
b) imaginary or
c) snowmen.
So what’s the right answer?
A combination of both approaches will do the trick. It’s a subtle, but brilliant blend of flattery and disinterestedness. Real them in with the flattery, then, just when they are about to take the bait, lose interest. You might like to try timing this response in two or three minute intervals. To get yourself in the right frame of mind repeat ‘Hot. Cold. Hot. Cold.’ over and over in your head until you go a bit cross-eyed (a very attractive look).
Warning: This is theoretical only and has not been empirically tested for its validity.
I will now hand this concept on to my readers to test. Get back to me with your results!
| 76 |
| Vote |
Shared on
Subscribe to this blog
Comment by Dan
LoL, I can never seem to get the balance right. I tend to be like a lsot puppy dog following my dream girl around hahaha.
On occasion I'll sit back and be a little cold, because I know that my usual approach NEVER works. But then I never erally get to talk to the girl.
Comment by Anonymous